How Is My Sister This Adorable?

I think I read her post about 4 times.

In a row.

Maybe 32 times.

But who is counting?

I don't even know how I could possibly compete this such kind words from my baby sister.

The biggest takeaway from her post?  

You should ALWAYS take time to remind your loved ones how much they mean to you...

I don't know if Sarah was reading my mind or what, but this message couldn't have possibly came on a better day.

I needed this message.

I needed this reminder.

I need to tell her the same more often.

I love you baby sis.

The best part about having a sister is having a friend.

Much love,
Ashley

Bandit's Morning Trick

It's no mystery that I'm afraid of aliens, sharks, tornadoes, evil spirits, the dark and creepy white vans, to name a few.

When I was getting ready this morning, I looked over and saw the bathroom door slowly creep open.

IS THAT A GHOST?!

Then I saw it.

The tip of his little nose.

Always smiling.

As I walked over the door, Bandit quietly - yet quickly, hopped onto the bed.

He was trying to get comfortable - to look like he had been there the whole time -when I called him out.

"You little jokster!!!" I said."Trying to make mommy think ghosts are living in this house.."

He jumped up on me, placed his paws my shoulders and gave me LOTS of kisses.

It was the perfect way to start my morning.

He made me laugh.

He made me feel loved.

He made me answer this question:

Why so serious!?!

Lately, I've found myself getting bogged down in an endless cycle of tasks and worries.

Sending emails.

Attending meetings.

Making dinner plans.

Updating designs.

Creating playlists.

Traveling to see family and friends.

Training for my half marathon.

Cleaning (kind of).

Cooking (okay, I'm lying - you know I don't cook, just making sure you are still paying attention).

But really, life has been insane lately. The past few months have flown by.  And just this morning, I realized that I haven't made time to listen to the chirping birds, take a walk with my family or guess what shapes the clouds are making in the bright blue sky.

Best of all, this morning Bandit made me realize the importance of escaping my endless cycle of thoughts and worries to enjoy the simplicity of a morning trick. 

Don't forget to acknowledge your loved ones (or fur sons) when they are trying to comfort your soul and ease your mind.

People let me tell you about my best friend...

 
Much love,
Ashley 

My Full-Time Job for Life

I remember being at my bridal shower and reading the advice cards:

Don't go to bed mad. Sleep on the couch.

Your wife is always right. You are always wrong.

Marriage is the hardest full-time job of your life.

Even when you are mad, don't forget to say "I love you" before you leave the house.

Why all of the negativity? The fighting? The hard working part? The being right vs. being wrong battles?

I didn't understand the advice.

Isn't marriage all butterflies, my little ponies and unicorns?

Don't married people kiss in the rain like Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams every single day?

No.

They don't.

Yes.

Marriage is difficult.

Even the most wonderful people and happiest couples fight.

Why?

Because every single person is different. 

One night a few weeks ago, Justin and I were experiencing one of those moments.

A fight.

I couldn't tell you why.

Being that I'm insanely emotional on any given day AND I was having a horrible month (March eeek), it really could have been ANYTHING to make me upset.

I told him he was being annoying.

"Of course I'm being annoying," Justin said back. "I'm your husband. We live together. We are married. I'm going to be annoying!!!"

"Oh yeah, well then why do people get married? If people are so annoying?" I asked back. I didn't really know what to say...because he was right. And at that moment, I would NEVER admit it.

"Maybe because they love each other. Maybe because they want to have kids together. And grow old together. Maybe I think that sounds pretty damn cool!!!" Justin said back.

I didn't know what to say back so I just blurted out, "OH YEAH! YOU THINK THAT'S COOL?!"

Really, Ash?

Nice comeback, I thought.

But what can you say to that?

That is cool.

And cute.

So we just started laughing. About how silly we sounded.

And within 5 minutes, we were giving each other a goodnight kiss.

No one slept on the couch.

No one went to bed mad.

We exchanged "I love you's" and snoozed off...

Even when Justin and I are in the middle of a fight, he always brings me back down to Earth.

He always makes me realize how much he loves me.
How much he will never give up on me us.

Marriage isn't easy.

It truly is a full-time job.

It takes constant work.

Constant growth.

Constant desire to be better, together.

"I love being married. It's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life."

-Rita Ruder

Love you J-Dog.

Thanks for reminding me that marriage is worth living, fighting and annoying someone for every single day.

 Much love,
Ashley

Adorbs

These deviled eggs are adorable.

That's all I have for now.

Once

"You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough."

-Mae West



You Need a Vacation: Night 2

How I Almost Ruined Our Vacation

I drank enough water before bed to wake up feeling pretty good. We had a free breakfast pass (again, thank you Hilton Honors Gold status), so that was an amazing way to start my day.

Then it was off to the gym, which was surprisingly nice! 

I wasn't in the running mood. Sometimes I feel like I could run for miles and miles, and other days I can't even run for more than 4 minutes. Unfortunately, I was the ladder.

So, I decided to do circuit training. Quick intervals of cardio broken up by sets of abs, squats and arm exercises.

And it wouldn't be a complete workout if I didn't take a picture of myself in the mirror.

But it wasn't long before I did the MOST AWFUL thing ever at the gym.

I WEIGHED MYSELF!

Number one, Aunt Flow is getting ready to visit so I am instantly 5+ lbs heavier!

Number two, I had drank all night.

Number three, I ate all day / night.

Weighing myself was a really bad idea. Did I mention that yet?

And when the scale said 229 lbs, I almost puked. 10 lbs.

Really? How does that even happen?

THANKFULLY Justin later weighed himself to confirm the scale was 5 lbs heavier than our scale at home.

Either way, I was so pissed off to see that number. And it showed when I came back to the room.

"What's wrong you?" Justin asked. He could sense something was wrong.

"I did something stupid," I said.

He was probably thinking I made out with the bell boy (joking) or spent a shit ton of money at the Macy's down the road (not joking, I really wanted to do that).

"I weighed myself," I admitted. I told him the dreadful number that I do not want to repeat outloud.

"Ashley, this happens every single month," Justin said. "You get ready to start your period and then you blow up! Okay that sounded really shitty, but you know what I'm saying. I put my arms around you at The Arch and it was a literally like I was squeezing a swollen uterus. You literally gain 5 to 10 lbs and are bloated for a few days!"

(See ladies, he can be a "guy" sometimes. He is not "cute" all of the time, but I truly appreciate his honesty so much!!)

"You're right," I said, still a little disappointed about the number...

"So you just have to prepare yourself for that and don't give up," Justin said. "Because in a week or so, you'll be back to your regular weight. But you can't freak out. You can't eat like shit and give up and think everything you're doing is worthless. Because you're doing great. Your hitting your goals. Just don't give up."

And with that mini pep talk, we headed off to the zoo. Penguins and elephants were certain to perk me up!

Projectile Penguins


 I was overly excited to see the penguins at the zoo. They are my absolute favorite. Next to the meerkats.

Shy Guy hiding behind the pimp cave (one penguin found a penny and brought it over to another penguin, who was hiding this cave. Thus, the pimp cave was established).

 It was morning time and apparently penguins are not morning folks. One penguin, who we will call Milo, came out of a cave and stretched his flippers in the air. Then he shook us little booty.

Justin pretended to read his mind and said, "Good morningggggg everyone!"

Then we watched as a few other penguins creeped out from the cave.

I was distracted by the booty shaking penguin, when Justin said, "Well hey - look at this little guy! I wonder what he is....OMGGG!"

Just then I looked over and saw a penguin bend over and project green poop all over the pimp cave, which Shy Guy was hiding behind. Like 10 year old boys, we couldn't stop laughing.

The pooping penguin, who we will call Otis, looked over at us and said, "I don't give a damn" and then walked back into his cave.

Otis was never seen again. But we talked about him and his splashing poop attack on Shy Guy once every 30 minutes until Sunday night.

We went on to see other beautiful animals, all of which reminded me of Bandit, and then we went to lunch at Fitz's.

Homemade Root Beer!

The food was pretty good! I settled on a turkey burger (no cheese) and seafood gumbo instead of fries. That was my attempt at eating healthy.

Next up, we went back to the hotel to take a nap and watch cable TV.

No vacation is complete without a mid-afternoon nap.

Sucking Heads off Crawfish

We woke up from the nap, well Justin woke up- I spent the afternoon watching murder mysteries (bad idea, I am still having problems sleeping).

Then we had our free drink from the bar (Red Bull and Vodka to kick off our night) before walking to  Broadway Oyster Bar.

"We are completely boring for doing the same thing two nights in a row," I said.

"No we aren't," Justin said. "If it ain't broken, don't fix it." 

Word. Broadway Oyster Bar is in my top 3 list of favorite restaurants ever!!

We ate oysters ( again) and decided to be brave and order a bucket of steamed crawfish!!

Eating crawfish was a true adventure. I was extremely nervous one of them would still be alive...and when I  reached into the bucket, it would pinch off my finger. Thankfully, that never happened.

The biggest crawdad in the bucket and he was all mine!

Sucking the juice out of the head.
Eating crawfish isn't exactly an attractive event.
I wouldn't do this on a first date.
Okay, you're right - I probably would.

You only live once, so why not eat some bottom dwellers?

After dinner, we went back to the hotel to change. I switched into my Gucci sweater (obviously) and we were off the Cigar Bar again.

Livin' better now, Gucci sweater now!

"I am so lucky to have a sexy wife who smokes cigars and tries to drink Jameson on the rocks," Justin said. "But you don't have to impress me anymore. I'll drink the rest of that if you want to."

I pretended to be hardcore. But I didn't know how to keep the cigar going and quickly traded my Jameson on the rocks for Justin's beer.

We went to another bar to finish watching the basketball game, which resulted in eating hummus and pita bread and calamari, which was drenched in ranch dressing.

I NEVER thought I would see the day when I did not want to eat ranch dressing on something, but let it be known that ranch dressing and squid DO NOT go well together. Don't try this at home kids...

Heading Home

St. Louis was the perfect weekend trip. I loved the buildings (except for The Arch pods!!!), the drinks, the FOOD (obviously), and most importantly the pooping penguin.

Until next time, St. Louis...

 Much love,
Ashley

You Need a Vacation: Night 1

I think I cried 20 times during the first two weeks of March.

Primarily because of stress.

Because I don't believe that complaining about your problems will SOLVE your problems, I won't bore you with the details.

Considering my previous few weeks, I can't tell you how happy I was when my husband emailed me and wrote, "You need a vacation. What do you think about St. Louis?"

My first thought was...is there beach in St. Louis?

I'm biased toward beach vacations.

Toes in the sand.

Drinks in your hand.

Ocean breeze sweeping over your body.

And if I'm buzzed enough, I might even jump into the ocean to cool down.

However, for a short weekend getaway, St. Louis sounded perfect!

We left Friday morning.

I spent most of the drive playing Draw Something, Scramble with Friends and reading "Bossypants" by Tina Fey (amazing book that you MUST read).

Putting on my "gangsta" face for Nelly.

We got to St. Louis around 3 p.m. and our trip to the top of The Arch wasn't until 4:30.

So we enjoyed something we don't get at home- CABLE TV!

Typical us: I am snapping a picture of myself and Justin is researching things to do in the area.

Then we used our free drink coupon (thank you Hilton Honors Gold Status)- insert Mango Tango to calm my nerves here:

My beach vacation in a drink.

The walk over to The Arch took us less than 10 minutes. We got there early, so we decided to be super touristy and take pictures:

Um, you want me to go to the top of that thing?

Pre-Arch jitters.

I've heard the pods to the top were small.  But when the doors opened, I was shocked. It looked like something that I would ride to the moon in. But I didn't understand how five people were supposed to fit inside comfortably. Or fit in general.

"I don't know about all this..." I said.

Justin started laughing.

They made us watch a video about why, how and when The Arch was built. I don't remember much about the video and the history behind The Arch, because I kept thinking about the little ass pod I was about to squeeze into...

Justin knew I was stressing out.

He knew I wanted to turn around and leave.

But instead of letting fear control me, I walked forward into the tiny eggshell with complete strangers.

Despite the warning to duck my head, I banged my forehead getting into the pod.

Everyone laughed. And by everyone- I mean, it was Justin, an 8th grade boy, his dad, his mom and myself.

The ride to the top is supposed to take 4 minutes.

And 4 minutes is a long time to be trapped in a pod traveling 600 feet in the air.

When we made it to the top, everyone was blocking the isle.

Taking pictures.

Laughing.

Looking out the window.

Me? I was paralyzed. I didn't want to move. I was afraid I would feel the structure swaying in the wind if I stayed up there too long. And then I would pass out. Always the center of attention, I could hear Justin joking later...

 With one look down to the bottom, I was ready to be back on the ground.

We were probably up there for 1 minute and 30 seconds before I was lining up for the pod to take us down again. A shorter ride this time - only 3 minutes. New strangers this time. But the 17-year-old boy thought I was hilarious and reminded me of Schmidt from The New Girl. The Dad was just as stressed out as I was, so we bonded about that...I was OK with that pod ride down.

Next up, we had dinner at Broadway Oyster Bar, which my cousin recommended.THANK YOU, Katie!

I can't even tell you how delicious the oysters were:

Raw oysters!!

The best oysters I've ever had!!

We also shared soup and a crawfish sandwich at Broadway. 

After dinner and drinks, we went to a bar the top of The Hilton called 360.

Our bartender (at our Hilton) recommended this place for a drink and the view.

When we walked into the hotel lobby, I felt like I was going to a club in Orange County. Fake boobs, bleach blonde hair, high heels, bright lipstick, fancy jewelry and pretty dresses all over the bar.

I was wearing sneakers with my dress and leggings.

While this isn't stylish, the restaurant was about a mile from our hotel and I opted for comfort.

I felt so out of place.

For a moment, I felt like I was in middle school again.The awkward kid in the corner...

I felt insecure.

I didn't feel like me.

And I hated that I got so worked up...

"I feel out of place," I told Justin.

"Who cares- you'll never see these people again, will you?" Justin said back.

"Well, no- but," I said and then realized he was right. It didn't make me feel any more confident, but he was right.

We walked around a bit and found no open seats. No space at the bar. I could tell Justin was getting annoyed.

"I want to get out of here," I whispered to Justin.

"Good," he said. "Let's go."

We got into the elevator with the an older guy and his friends. He had a thick Southern accent and was wearing his cowboy hat with sneakers.

Just like The Honey Badger, he didn't give a damn.

And I loved him for his outrageous personality and big voice. 

"It looks like a sauna in here," he said rubbing the wooden padding in the elevator. "Everyone take off your clothes!"

Everyone laughed, but I think was serious.  Either way, I kept my clothes on and smiled because his humor was exactly what I needed to bring me back to reality.

The next stop was a Cigar Bar. Justin ordered Jameson on the rocks. I had a few sips, which made me feel like a bad ass, and then we were off to call it a night. I told myself not to drink too much because I wanted to run in the morning. Plus, being hungover at the zoo did not sound fun.

The alien walk.

But instead of going back to our hotel room, we ended up at Hooters for more drinks and most importantly, more oysters!

"Take a picture of me and my beer." - Me
"You're a picture whore." - Justin

Not as good as Broadway Oyster Bar, but still delicious!!

We had a blast on Day 1. I can't even begin to tell you how much I needed to get away...how much I needed to relax. Our first day / night was absolutely perfect, well minus the small pods - I will be OK never doing that again...

I'll share more about our trip tomorrow.

Much love,
Ashley