I observe things. I love watching people. I'm distracted by nearly everything. I can't go anywhere or do anything without thinking about how I can write about the day, the moment, the people, and the emotions.
The other day when I was driving home past the church (that is also a daycare), I saw a little boy sitting in the field all by himself. He reminded me of Brick from The Middle.
I saw two kids walking toward him, one kid was holding a kick ball. They had a serious walk and I was nervous they were going to be mean. I slowed down and kept watching them. The boys walking toward Brick (the kid alone on the ground) were actually nice to him. I saw the bigger kid lean down and stick out his hand. Together, they helped him up. The three of them started walking back together.
The world we live in is full of stories about children being bullies and downright disgusting to one another. In just one week (last week), three young boys took their life because they were constantly tormented at school. Only 13 years old and he thought his life was not worth living- he thought he had no other option. My heart is completely broken to think about those poor children and their families.
The mother's who lost their sons.
Fathers who no longer have their son.
The sisters who lost their brother.
A hopeless best friend, wondering why and what they could have done differently to save his or her best friend.
And then I thought of my brothers and sisters, had they ever felt this way? Had anyone ever made them feel that way? It completely breaks my heart to even consider that and I will do anything to protect and defend my little brothers and sisters.
But that moment proved there is still hope. Kids can be nice; even when adults aren't looking.
But we have to teach them how to be nice. To put themselves in someone else's shoes.
We MUST teach them.
We can't assume they will learn the ways of the world on their own. They need some guidance. Teach them right from wrong. Correct them when they are rude or out of line, but go beyond that and EXPLAIN why it was wrong. Then take it a step further and tell them what they should do differently next time.
The saying, "It's just the way kids are today" is a joke. No, it's not the way kids are today. They shouldn't ever be this way. With or without the Internet, kids should never get away with treating other people in such hateful ways. And sadly, it all starts at home. Home is where it all starts and ends.
We must teach them all we know. Show them compassion. Teach them respect. Love them. Hug them. Kiss them. Encourage them. Support them. It doesn't even have to be your own child. Do this for any child. Seriously.
Be the change you want to see in this world.